I always curse the "youngsters" for over-sharing online. I feel like the old man telling the kids to get off of his digital lawn.
But, what is the point of having a virtual salon or bar if you can't reach out for advice and insight from the good folks who frequent it?
Bad news inevitably comes at night...at least according to Benjamin Sisko on Star Trek's Deep Space Nine. Perhaps I am an outlier as my bad news calls me in the mid to late afternoon and early evening. I found out that my father died at about 7:53 pm during the season finale of the Sopranos in 2004--the phone rang, I knew what the call was, as I watched Tony run away from John Sacrimoni's house when the Feds were raiding it.
My mother called me yesterday afternoon.
Me: What is wrong? [her voice is transparent and obvious]
Her: I had a car accident
Me: Goodness. Are you okay?
Her: I got hit, my poor little car is all messed up [sobs, panicked voice, upsetness]
Me: What happened. Again? [exasperation]
My most important concern is for her safety. I am embarrassed to admit this, but I am a practical person and those of you who are the only children (or the only responsible children) of an older parent, my second thought was "how much is this mess going to cost of my rather limited funds to fix?"
There is no resentment in that question, just frustration at life choices which did not allow me to have a money tree growing in the backyard, how I need to rectify those choices, and the weight that comes with knowing that most of those transactions from the children of the poor and working classes who manage to be strivers is in one direction only. So be it.
Thus, my question and advice seeking from the diverse range of folks here at WARN who may be online this weekend.
As I understand it, my mother was crossing traffic on a road that runs North and South and was "T-Boned", i.e. hit on the drivers side of her car (again, I am glad she is okay and the phone call wasn't that she was hurt or worse). Her story is that she checked the traffic, the other person's car was far away, and it was safe to proceed. She is hit in the second lane near the yellow line. Witnesses said they thought she must have been seriously injured from the impact because car seemed like it was going to tip over.
The car suffered moderate damage. The car dealer says the doors will need to be replaced and the frame is not bent. The windows didn't break. The airbags did not deploy. This makes me wonder about the speed of the other vehicle as he must have slowed down--was he distracted? slow to react? mechanical failure? How can a car get hit that way and not suffer even more damage?
[I had to suppress my annoyed tone with those questions as my mother recounted her version of events.
I don't understand how one can get hit crossing traffic if they are doing the classic "left, right, left, right, left again, head on a swivel, eyes on the road in the direction you are going routine". My driving teacher was a sadist. Phil's Driving School is no joke.]
The brass tacks: no ticket was issued to either party.
How is culpability determined in a T-Bone accident for the party who is hit? Does a lack of a ticket preclude a civil claim for bodily harm? Does the other party have grounds for a claim too? The accident occurred in one of the few that does not have a "no fault" insurance law.
I am not a lawyer--clearly--but from what I figured out, the party who is turning across traffic has an added burden of caution as the other drivers have the right of way. However, the party which is not turning has the obligation to not hit vehicles in front of them, and to operate the vehicle in a manner that would allow them to avoid obstacles and to yield if need be.
I have read conflicting material about the practical culpability of the person who hits a vehicle in a T-Bone type collision.
On my insistence, my mother will be going to see a very good attorney who has helped her in the past.
Any folks with experience in these matters? What should we expect?